Sexless husband tempted to accept ‘no strings’ hookup

DEAR ABBY: I’m 67 and I like sex. My wife doesn’t. She has no drive. It may be health-related, maybe due to meds. She has no time; she’s a workaholic.
I met a widow who is very tempting. She suggested a “no strings” hookup. I’m starting to think it’s not adultery if my wife is sexless.
Your thoughts, Abby?
PENNSYLVANIA SENIOR

DEAR SENIOR: I’m glad you asked. Take a pass on the widow’s generous offer. Her “no strings” hookup sounds like a snare that could hang you if the Mrs. gets wind of it.
Your wife’s lack of sex drive may be due to any of the things you mentioned. It could also be that your technique needs improving. Ask her if that might be the problem. If it is, a sex therapist could help you fix that in a jiffy. And it would be cheaper in the long run than what you’re contemplating.

DEAR ABBY: Is it OK to put a paper towel holder in the bathroom? I don’t want to buy the kind that you can pull out from a box. I want to put a holder on the wall so I don’t have to hide my roll under the sink. That way, anyone can pull a sheet off the roll to clean up a mess or wipe their hands if they don’t want to use a hand towel. I’ve never seen one in anyone’s bathroom, but I don’t know why.
JANET IN NEW JERSEY

DEAR JANET: Even though you haven’t seen one, I’m sure you’re not the only one to think of it. If you would like a roll of paper towels in your bathroom, you’ll get no argument from me. Go for it.
DEAR ABBY: I was talking to my daughter about what I would want for a birthday present since I have plenty of “stuff” and I am trying to get rid of it.
Could I suggest that instead of giving me something, she come and take something — or even two somethings? What do you think?
ANN IN UPSTATE
NEW YORK

DEAR ANN: I think it’s a novel idea for someone who is downsizing, and if you and your daughter have similar taste, she would appreciate it. Start by saying, “It’s better to give than to receive ...”

DEAR ABBY: What is the correct etiquette for eating shrimp? My husband says it’s OK to eat it with your fingers — even shrimp scampi.
PAT IN TEXAS

DEAR PAT: According to Emily Post, shrimp can be eaten with the fingers “when served in a bowl or platter with a dip, or tail-on in shrimp cocktail.”
A fork should be used when it is served “tail-less in a shrimp cocktail or as a main course.”

DEAR ABBY: What do you think of taking young children into a prison to visit an uncle? The kids are 3, 4 and 6 and endure a 12-hour car ride each way. I stay out of it and haven’t said a word to the parents, but I don’t think this is the smartest idea.
CARING BYSTANDER

DEAR BYSTANDER: You don’t say how often these visits happen, but if it’s often, it seems to me that a 12-hour drive (each way) would be very hard on small children. If you are a friend or relative and live nearby, I’m sure it would be appreciated if you volunteered to watch the kids while the parents make the drive.
Have you considered it?
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